Making It Sound Optional
As adults, when asked to do something in a certain manner, we know that we don’t usually have a choice and that we’re being asked out of politeness. This, however, does not work with kids.
So, when you want your child to eat dinner, but ask, "Do you want to eat your dinner?” you are not telling them what to do, you’re giving them the option to say no to your request.
Instead, give directions that are straight and worded positively, such as, "It’s time to finish up dinner, please!” or "You need to join us for dinner now.”