Sex tips for married couples: 8 steps to a mind-blowing orgasm!

If you are one of those lucky ladies who reach an orgasmic state every time you have sex, then you know that it is absolutely worth it! But for the ladies who need a little help, here are some tips that can help you in reaching that big O!

Get to know your body

In order to really enjoy sex with your man, you need to know what you like. The best way of knowing what you like and how you like to be touched is to explore your body yourself.

Through solo play, you can really focus on yourself and not be concerned with the other party’s needs. This is the only way you can figure out what brings you to an explosive orgasm and what doesn’t.

Once you know what turns you on, you will know what to expect when you are with your partner. This shouldn’t be a one-off experience either. Pleasure yourself on a regular basis and remember – practice makes perfect.

Embark on a search

Experts say that clitoral stimulation is one of the keys to orgasmic sex. They also say that one reason women don’t have as many orgasms as men is that they (or the men they are with) don’t know where their clitoris is.

So embark on a search to find this ‘elusive treasure’ when you are alone so you can guide your husband in the right direction.

Strengthen your muscles – down there!

No, we are not asking you to go to the gym in order to have mind blowing orgasms!

Kegel exercises strengthen your pelvic floor muscles by contracting and releasing them. The best thing about it is that you can do it anytime, anywhere, and without anyone knowing about it.

The easiest way of identifying your pelvic floor muscles is to stop urinating mid-stream. The muscles that do this action are the same muscles that release an avalanche of sexual energy.

Relax and eliminate distractions

Admit it - there are times that you find yourself doing a mental checklist of chores while having sex, right?

Unfortunately, our mommy-brains don’t have a ‘snooze’ button to pause extraneous thoughts. This could probably be another reason why women have less orgasms after they become moms.

So when you are ready to get naughty with your other half, leave your ‘mommy hat’ outside the bedroom door and put on your ‘sexy vixen hat’ and get ready to relish your time together.

Don’t be pressured to perform

Being stressed about achieving an orgasm in a sure-fire way not to have one. Don’t make climaxing the whole focus of having sex – this will add way too much pressure on both you and your partner.

Instead, go with the flow, relax, and enjoy a multi-sensory experience which the reward will be nothing short of magnificent.

Create the scene

The space in which you get naughty should have a sensual feel to it too. If your bright bedroom lights are a huge turn-off, install a dimmer or get some lamps that will give that soft romantic feel you are looking for.

You can also use scented candles and turn on some sexy music to enhance the mood.

Call for assistance

Now, we’re not suggesting you invite others to join your party for two! We are simply referring to assistance in the form of lubrication.

It is a known fact that, when turned on, a woman’s body produces adequate natural lubrication. However the right amount of lubricant gel can not only heighten your pleasure during sex by making things glide better, but it can increase your chances of having those amazing toe-curling orgasms you yearn for!

Another form of ‘outside’ help you can use are sex toys. Contrary to the popular belief that sex toys impede great sex between couples, the right erotic equipment such as a vibrator can quicken the time you take to climax.

If you are a woman who needs clitoral stimulation in order to have an orgasm, a vibrator held just right, at the right time, is sure to get you where you want to go.

The right touch and the right moves

In order to double your pleasure during foreplay, it’s good to know where your erogenous zones are. If you don’t already know what erogenous zones are, they are certain parts of the body that arouse you upon touch.

Finding your erogenous zones can be an erotic experience too – just give your man a feather and let him find those nooks and crannies that drive you crazy.

Here’s a tip – ask your man to insert two fingers and mimic a ‘come hither’ motion. While he is doing this, ask him to also stimulate your erogenous zones at the same time – and prepare yourself for an orgasm of epic proportions!

Sex tips for married couples: 8 steps to a mind-blowing orgasm!

Article originally published on: theAsianparent.com

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Minoli Almeida