Ladies, I know it’s hard to accept that we don’t really “know it all” when it comes to what’s going through our guys’ minds when it comes to sex. If only there are actual sex tips for wives you can follow, right?
Even if you’ve had very revealing conversations about sex with your partner, there are some things he may not have said to you, but secretly hoped you knew.
Sex tips for wives: A must read
I’m sure you’re curious to know what these are… So, go ahead and click away!
They want you to be open to trying new things
Many men tell sex therapists that they would love it if their wives were more open to experimenting when it comes to sex. Even if you think his suggestions sound totally ridiculous, at least be open to talking about it.
You never know, once you get talking, he might be able to convince you to give his suggestions a go.
Do keep in mind that your man won’t (and shouldn’t!) want you to do something you don’t enjoy, so don’t feel bad about giving honest feedback about his suggestions — after giving them a go!
They love to fantasize
We know how that feels… we fantasize too, right? Although it’s more likely about things like those fabulous new shoes or a bag we have our eye on.
Well, men fantasize about things that are totally unrelated to bags and shoes. (But you already know that, right?)
Sex tips for wives: if your partner has a particular fantasy, hear him out without passing judgment. Better yet, while you are hearing him out, why not air out some of your deepest, darkest fantasies too?
Keep talking
By talking, we don’t mean start going on about your day and what you had for lunch while having sex. According to sex therapists, men like it when their women talk dirty to them.
If you are not a ‘dirty talk’ kind of girl though, don’t worry.
You can start by trying to communicate with your guy by either giving him directions on how to pleasure you or encouraging him when he’s doing something you love.
Don’t be put off by his porn collection
Sex therapists say that this is one of the main reasons couples come to see them. What these experts say is that getting aroused looking at porn and being addicted to porn are completely different things.
Men respond to visual stimulation, so they would naturally ‘respond’ to pornography. However, you would know your man has a problem if he relies only on porn to get turned on.
Some directions, please?
Guys say that they love it when their women tell them what they like in bed. Things like when to speed up, when to slow down and when to stop.
Think about it ladies, you don’t have to grin and nod through gritted teeth the next time your man does something you don’t like. So speak up! You don’t want a repeat performance of that, do you?
Of course, the same goes for something he does that you love! Go ahead and let him know about it!
They want to have more sex with you
After spending the whole day juggling your work, the kids and errands, the last thing you want to have is sex, right? You’ll probably prefer a relaxing foot rub instead!
A man’s opinion would be quite the opposite though. He regards sex as a pleasurable ‘stress-buster’, probably similar to how we think about that foot rub.
So try to make an effort for your man and have more time to make love to each other!
They want you to praise their efforts
Just like how we ladies love the occasional compliment — such as, “Honey, you look stunning,” or, “That color really suits you” — guys love to hear praises as well. Of course, we mean praises for their mighty efforts in bed!
So, boost his ego and be forthcoming with the compliments. He will no doubt make further efforts to double your pleasure in bed.
He’s more than just his…
Before making a beeline for your husband’s ‘goods’, take time to explore his other ‘erogenous zones’.
Sex tips for wives: Ask him for directions, like where he wants to be touched. This will surely make your job a bit easier!
Have passionate/rough sex occasionally
According to sex therapists, men want their wives to enjoy raw, rough sex, not just endure it.
Women shouldn’t take this personally or think that there’s something wrong with their relationship.
Remember, we mentioned how guys think of sex as a relaxing stress-buster? Sometimes all they want to do is ravish their wives — and it has nothing to do with dominating them.
The fun need not end when he loses an erection
When your man fails to “rise to the occasion,” the last thing you should say is “Aawww, it’s alright babe, let’s do it again another time.”
Instead, don’t make a big deal about it. Men say such a reaction makes them feel ashamed and emasculated. When this happens, shift gears and try something else!
Article originally published on theAsianparent.com
