Erectile dysfunction is a legitimate problem for couples, and it's very important for you to know how to address this concern with your wife.
For a lot of men, erectile dysfunction is a very sensitive topic, and most men won’t admit to having problems in the bedroom.
However, addressing the problem directly is very important, and it should be something that you can openly discuss with your wife.
It’s no laughing matter
At it’s core, erectile dysfunction, or E.D., is a condition wherein the man is unable to have an erection, or finds it hard to maintain an erection, which makes it difficult for them to provide pleasure for their partner.
And while a lot of men joke about E.D., it’s most definitely not a laughing matter as about half of men aged 40-70 have reported having this type of problem, so it’s most certainly not an uncommon occurrence.
Just as important would be for someone who has E.D. to talk about it with his wife, as it’s not something that should be kept a secret, or be embarrassed about.
A lot of men with E.D. suffer from anxiety
E.D. causes a lot of other problems, such as anxiety. A lot of men suffering from E.D. feel anxious over being unable to satisfy their partner, that they avoid having sex entirely.
In a lot of couples, sex is an important part of the relationship, and avoiding it might make the other person feel that their husband is no longer interested in them, or no longer finds them attractive.
Additionally, the stress and relationship problems associated with E.D. can even make the condition worse.
How can you talk to your wife about it?
If you think that you’re suffering from E.D., you need to do something about it. The first thing would be to talk about it with your wife.
Try and understand that having E.D., isn’t just your problem, but it’s a couple’s problem as it affects you and your wife’s sex life. You shouldn’t try and keep the problem to yourself, as it’s likely to cause a lot of strain in your relationship if you keep your E.D. a secret from your wife.
When talking about E.D. with your wife, you need to be open and honest about your feelings. You can also tell them what you like sexually, as sometimes it can help you with your erectile dysfunction. Always remember that you and your wife are a team, and that you don’t have to carry your problems yourself.
What can you do about E.D.?
In most cases, erectile dysfunction can be treated. There are a lot of things that you can do in order to manage E.D., and it’s not only limited to taking medicine, as in some cases, E.D. can be a psychological problem.
Here’s what you and your wife can do:
- Go to your doctor’s appointments together, so that she can help support you.
- Know all you can about your condition.
- Find out which types of treatment are the best for you.
- Try other means of giving sexual pleasure to your partner aside from intercourse.
- You can talk to a counselor if you need help on what you can do to make things more exciting in your relationship.
Always remember, E.D. isn’t something to be scared of or ashamed of. It’s a condition that a lot of men have, and talking about it with your partner would help you be in control of your condition.
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