Tips for a happy marriage: 10 things you should never say to your wife

Ever heard of the saying, "Happy wife, happy life"? If you're a man who'd like to keep his marriage off the rocks, then read on to know what you should never say to your wife.

"Stop nagging me"

Even if you feel like your wife is bombarding you with one question after another and is getting on your nerves, keep your head cool.

If you don’t feel like sharing how your tiring day at work went, tell her gently that you’d love to tell her about it after a short period of rest.

"What are you wearing?"

Unless your wife asks for your opinion on her outfit, it may be best to keep mum about unless you feel really uncomfortable with it. When you do decide to talk to her about her clothes, break it to gently by veering her to another outfit. You can say something along the lines of, "Hey, remember that red dress you wore the other day? I loved that!”

"Did you do anything at all today?"

It may be exasperating for a husband to come home to see a couple of chores unaccomplished, but that is never reason enough for one to say the above phrase.

Managing a household, and kids if you have any, isn’t an easy feat. So instead of noticing what hasn’t been done, praise your wife for all that she’s managed to do that day.

"My ex would never have done that"

Comparing your wife to your ex, let alone bringing up your ex during a heated discussion, is akin to opening Pandora’s Box.

While husbands may think that this will push their wives to perform better, it actually does the opposite and causes unnecessary hurt and tension.

"Where did you put my clean socks?"

Although you may just want to know where your socks are, this could make your wife feel like all she does is your laundry and clean up after you.

Instead of asking this question, you could tell her to remind you where your socks are or better yet, cut your wife some slack and look for them yourself.

"You always..."

Pointing out your wife’s mistake in a spiteful manner is never the solution to anything. When you want to correct something that your wife’s been doing repeatedly, be prudent with your words.

Start off with a sentence of praise or two, and then gently point out her mistake. That and never generalize. When you do, it seems like you take note of her mistakes more than you do of the good things she’s done for you.

"I'm busy"

This could be taken into offense depending on the tone you use. A negative tone will anger your wife. In order to tell your wife you are busy without angering her, tone is key.

"You shop too much"

Judging your wife for how much she shops could offend her. If you feel she shops too much, you should talk to your wife about it in a very calm manner, and perhaps suggest that she stick to a budget or bring you along the next time she wants to hit the mall.

"You should go on a diet"

Even if you think your wife has put on a little weight, you should avoid directly telling her. In order to talk to your wife about this without offending her, you could suggest healthier meals for the two of you, or suggest going on walks together. Subtle hints are key.

"You cook almost as good as my mom"

Comparing your wife to her mother-in-law isn't as much of a compliment as men think it is. Your wife wants to be praised for her own set of skills that make her uniquely your wife. So even if you think that a dish that she's prepared tastes just like the one your mom, keep that part of the compliment to yourself.

Tips for a happy marriage: 10 things you should never say to your wife

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