6 ways mom and son can strengthen their relationship
If you're a mom who can't figure out how you can get closer to your little boy, then you may want to try these mom and son bonding tips. Read this now.
According to Kate Stone Lombardi, author of The Mama’s Boy Myth: Why Keeping Our Sons Close Makes Them Stronger, if your son has a close relationship with you, he's most likely perform better in school. He'll also be more prone to enjoying better mental health and to becoming successful in both his personal and work life.
Moms of boys might find it difficult to make a connection with their sons whose interests are a stark contrast to their feminine preferences. However, there are several ways that allow you to get around this challenge and to forge a strong bond with your charming little boy.
If there's one thing that strikes you about boys, it has to be that they are often rough and are mischievous balls of energy! That is simply how most boys are wired. Yet, there is something loveable about them when they give you a cheeky smile on those grimy faces.
To easily connect with them, you have to rough it out with them – play the action games that they play, join them in kicking a football around or pretend-play a scene out of the Superman movie.
Do not be afraid to show a few of your karate moves, regardless of whether you have official training or not! When you hear your boy snicker (boys don’t giggle like us!) or see his eyes widen with admiration, you know that you have made an instant connection.
Like most mothers, you probably find yourself nodding as your son chatters about his favorite Ninjago character or about how Ben 10 fights the giant squid-like Vilgax . However, if you do this on a regular basis and supplement it with more dismissive behavior, your son may clam up thus you losing an opportunity to make a connection with him.
So what do you do? Put your preferences and judgements aside and show a little more enthusiasm in your son’s interests. If you have to Google to learn about it, do so. The little effort that you put into getting to know his interests is nothing compared to the benefits of having something the two of you can bond over.
What else can you do to get closer to your son? Read on.
Make time for your son to talk to you. Find a time when both of you can be alone and go to a place where your son will feel comfortable and unthreatened. Resist the urge to talk over your son, to talk down to your son and instead listen to his thoughts and feelings, regardless the topic.
You can chat while driving home from school or when you tuck him in to bed at night. By opening a line of communication with your son early, your child may grow up to be someone who welcomes conversations with mum as opposed to someone who dreads them.
As a child, your son may find it difficult to express himself or emotions in an orderly fashion. So if he's feeling angry or upset, instead of a proper dialogue, he may opt to more aggressive behavior towards you. If not received in a calm manner, this may lead to the situation blowing up and crosses in your relationship.
In order to prevent this, be a good role model to him. Show him how you would react when in an unpleasant situation yourself and discuss things with him. Express how you're feeling and and encourage him to share his feelings with you too.
This way, he learns to identify his emotions and you can help validate his feelings, while at the same time gently guiding him to deal with his emotions the right way.
One minute your son is Superman, the next he's Iron Man, no matter how invincible he may want to be though, nothing beats getting a warm, loving hug from mom. Hugs and cuddles help reassure your son that he is loved, cared for and gives him a sense of safety when with you.
Of course, do not go to the extreme and coddle your son. Hug him enough to remind him that he is loved and that you will always be there for him.
Article originally published on: theAsianparent
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