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Mom confession: "Feeling ko sobrang losyang ko na..."

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Mom confession: "Feeling ko sobrang losyang ko na..."

Jomarie Reyes is influencer, content creator, Mom of 2 kids, a breastfeeding mom, and a stay-at-home-mom

Hindi talaga maiiwasan na mga ilang babae na katulad ko, lalo na ng mga nanganak na ang isipin na ang “losyang ko na.” Halos lahat naman tayo ay nakakaramdam nito dahil sa pagbabago ng ating katawan.

Narito ang kwento ng isang mommy na pinagdaanan ito at paano niya nalagpasan ang pagsubok na ito.

“Feeling ko sobrang losyang ko na.”

“There were times when I thought of myself that I am no longer me. Iyong kapag titingin ako ng salamin sasabihin ko sa sarili ko, Ako na ba talaga to?”

Iyong feeling na anf dating inaalagaan mong katawan na makinis, sexy, laging nakaayos ngayon kahit magsuklay ‘di na magawa. Swertihan pa kung makaligo agad ng maaga.

Napakahirap maging isang stay at home mom, kasi full time ka sa gawain bahay. Tutok sa pa-aalaga sa mga bata, dagdag pa kung rumaraket ka para pandagdag sa budget.

losyang na babae

Feeling ko ang losyang ko na babae. | Larawan mula sa iStock

Halos wala na talagang time para sa sarili. Minsan ikaw na ang mapapasabi sa sarili mo na, “Feeling ko sobrang losyang ko na”,“Do I still look attractive?“. Minsan naman you question yourself, “Hanggang ganito na lang ba talaga ko, magpapakananay na lang habang buhay?”

I even sometimes feel insecure. I don’t want to take pictures kasi baka sabihin, “Uy ang taba mo na.” You even compare yourself with the other moms you knew.

And told yourself, “Bakit sila? Bakit parang ‘di nanganak? Ang sexy ang blooming pa rin.” or “Buti pa sila kahit full time mom may career pa rin.”

I know maraming mommies ang nakakarelate sa akin. Yes, lahat iyon naramdaman ko at nasabi ko sa sarili ko. I lose my confidence when I chose to be a stay at home mom.

Akala ko magiging okay lang ako pero dumaan ako sa ganyan pagsubok sa sarili ko. I even pity myself and told myself na para kong katulong.

Iyong pakiramdam na, “Ano ba silbe ko?, Ganito na lang ba talaga ko?, Ayaw ko malosyang at magaya sa ibang kakilala ko na di naalgaan sarili nila.”

losyang na babae

Larawan mula sa iStock

BASAHIN:

Mom confession: Hindi na ako komportable makipag-sex sa asawa ko.

“Hindi ako LOSYANG—mas inuuna ko lang ang anak ko kaysa sarili ko”

Stay-at-home mom depression: Ano ang senyales nito?

May nagpa-realize sa akin sa naiisip ko na tila losyang na ako na babae

And then, a friend of mine told me na ” Ano ka ba di ka losyang tsaka di ka NANAY LANG, NANAY KA. Kung wala ka, wala sila. Walang magaasikaso at magaalaga sa kanila.”

Bumaon saken ang mga salitang iyon. Oo nga no? ‘Di lang pala tayo basta-basta nanay lang, nanay tayo. Tayo lang naman ang nagaasikaso sa lahat ng kelangan ng pamilya natin.

Mula sa pagkain, gamit, tutulugan at tinitirahan nila. Tayo ang nagaalaga at nagmamahal sa kanila na ‘di magagawa ng sinuman. That’s where I found my worth, Slowly I was able to gain my confidence again.

losyang na babae

Larawan mula sa Pexels

Naisip ko, ‘di porke nasa bahay tayo, ‘di na pwede magayos ng sarili, kaya paminsan minsan nag-aayos ako. I also treat myself, I buy foods na gusto ko. I buy clothes kahit preloved lang. I pamper myself once in a while.

And by God’s grace, I was able to have my own career. An opportunity knocks on me and it open a lot of doors for me. I was able to find a purpose that aside from being a stay at home mom.

I can also build my own career, my own path which helped me a lot to boost my confidence and give joy to my heart. It taught me to embrace more my motherhood journey and love my self even more.

Sometimes we just have to look harder on the other side para makita naten yung mga blessings sa kabila ng struggles natin.

And of course, we need to surround ourselves with people who will lift us up. Iyong support lalo na ng asawa napakahalaga.

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It is one of the foundation ng self confidence ng isang ina. At thankful ako sa part na iyon kasi sa kabila ng moodswings, tantrums at kung ano ano pa, iyong support ng asawa ko sa akin at sa ginagawa ko ay 100 percent.

Alam ko, there are some mommies who’s reading this right now na nakakaranas ng same situation na pinagdaanan ko. I want you to know that you are worthy.

You are lovable. You are not JUST A MOM, YOU ARE A MOM. A SUPERMOM. Don’t be to harsh on yourself. Sabe nga nila LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.

That’s true, we must love and take care of ourselves and be able to see our worth. No one else will do that for you except you. And one day, you’ll find yourself happier than you could ever be.

Hope I was able to inspire and help you mommies. Just keep on pushing hard and God will bless you more than you expect.

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