How to raise children who are deserving–not entitled

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According to this specialist, there are 10 steps on the path to raising hard working, humble kids! Learn more here!

The ultimate goal for many parents in today’s society is to raise a child who knows the value of hard work, and what good fortune can come from a little elbow grease. After all, no one wants a child who thinks the world owes him everything, or a kid who feels entitled to everything around him.

According to Laura Markham, Ph. D., there are nearly a dozen steps parents can acknowledge on the road to raising kids who feel deserving and empowered—but not entitled!

Check out her expert assertions, and see how you can raise hard working, humble children:

1. Don’t feed a child’s emotional hunger with possessions

What Dr. Markham means to say here is that you can’t fill voids–brought on by emotional distress of any type–with material objects. For example, if you’ve been caught up at work and haven’t spent time with your child as often as you used to, you can;t expect to solve that problem with a flashy new possession.

Using the method of buying your kids things to make up for your own faults and shortcomings can lead to them being demanding. And, as Markham suggests, [w]hen your child gets demanding, that’s a red flag to stop, drop your busy-ness, and get clear about your priorities.”

“As the old saying goes, children thrive when you give them half as many presents and twice as much of your presence,” she adds.

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2. Don’t shame, instead, empower them to create their own abundance

Markham believes that there are occasions in which kids express their desire for material things, and parents “shame” them as a result of their own anxiety over money. However, giving in and giving them whatever they want whenever they want also yields negative effects.

If you instead empower them and make them feel as though they can work toward earning what they want, they’ll understand that they can make a difference through a little hard work. For example, if your child is begging your for a new toy, don’t just give it to them. Make them do chores, or wait until their birthday to receive the item. They’ll learn they have to work or wait for things to come their way.

3. Empower your child by giving her the chance to learn the value of hard work

In accordance with the last entry, you must show your children the value of hard work and dedication in order to earn something.

“[A]ll children need to learn that if they work hard at things, they can make their dreams come true. They learn more from earning than from just being handed things. And the pursuit of a goal is rewarding in itself,” says Dr. Markham.

 

Learn more of Dr. Markham’s tips and tricks for raising kids who feel deserving and empowered—but not entitled! Visit the next page for more!

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