To the woman staying with a cheating husband, here's some advice

To the woman staying with a cheating husband, here's some advice

Staying with a cheating husband is not easy. How can you restore the joy in your relationship when you know the sacred bond of trust has been broken?

When a husband strays, it can be difficult to imagine how you could possibly move past it. How can you find joy in the relationship knowing that they have broken your trust, that they have become intimate with another woman? Staying with a cheating husband is not the popular choice, but it's one that some women still make.

Some women choose to stay for the kids, while others still see that there is love worth fighting for. They recognize that the infidelity is simply a symptom of a disease that is causing their unhappy relationship.

If you are one of these women, surely you have felt the shame that often comes with it. Perhaps you have been told you lack strength, self-respect or that you are simply giving them the power to hurt you all over again.

As long as their relationship is not abusive, these women believe that there has to be at least one thing worth saving.

Get the support you need

You will need a solid support group to get through this intensely emotional time. When once it was your husband who served as your partner and sounding board, his infidelity has most likely robbed you of this relationship dynamic.

When restoring a broken relationship, you don't have to go through it alone. Surround yourself with positivity and people who have your best intentions at heart. They can be close relatives or best friends, or women who are going through the same things.

Make confession and communication a habit

Set aside time with your husband to talk and to come clean about what you still feel guilty about. Use this time to ask him questions about how he behaved in the past.

Make sure you are both in a calm space when you take this one-on-one, heart-to-heart time. Obviously, it won't be a very productive conversation if you're both overcome with emotion to listen without judgment.

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Require your husband to 'cut ties with temptation'

In order to help you both move forward, there is nothing wrong with demanding that your husband severs all links from his past behavior.

This involves cutting ties with people, places, and websites or apps that have anything to do with his past infidelity.

Come up with 'full disclosure' rules

Depending on what works for you, come up with rules defining what information you are entitled to ask for at any moment during the day. For instance, you can both agree that you have the right to ask about his whereabouts and who he is with at any given time.

This may seem like overkill for some, but having one's trust broken is not easy. Some couples need to go to extremes just to restore the bond that was lost and to reaffirm that there is still faithfulness in the relationship.

Do not rush intimacy

Each woman's intimacy needs vary. If you're the type who craves closeness through sex, seeing it as a necessary first step to healing, then you should strive to turn up the romance in this way.

However, there are women who need to heal emotionally before they even consider getting physically intimate once again.

Whatever works for you as a couple, the most important thing is to focus on restoring that feeling of security or connectedness, regardless of how this is achieved.

sources: The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, Prevention

READ: “My husband cheated on me repeatedly for 12 years, but I still love him.”

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Bianchi Mendoza

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