X
theAsianparent Philippines Logo
theAsianparent Philippines Logo
EnglishFilipino
Product Guide
Sign in
  • Building a BakuNation
  • Becoming a Parent
    • Trying to Conceive
    • Pregnancy
    • Delivery
    • Losing a Baby
    • Project Sidekicks
  • Ages & Stages
    • Baby
    • Toddler Years
    • Preschool Age
    • Kids
    • Preteen & Teen
  • Parenting
    • Parent's Guide
    • News
    • Relationship & Sex
  • Health & Wellness
    • Diseases & Injuries
    • Allergies & Conditions
    • Vaccinations
  • Education
    • Preschool
    • K-12
    • Special Education Needs
  • Lifestyle Section
    • Celebrities
    • Contests & Promotions
    • Home
    • Travel and Leisure
    • Fashion
    • Fitness
    • Wellness
    • Money
  • Become a VIP
  • COVID-19
  • Press Room
  • TAP Recommends
  • Shopping

"How should I deal with unsolicited parenting advice?"

2 min read
"How should I deal with unsolicited parenting advice?"

We didn't ask for advice, but we're getting them anyway. What now?

New parents know what this is like: you’re doing something seemingly innocuous—like strapping your child into his carseat or feeding her baby food—and you’re suddenly bombarded with do’s and dont’s and how-to’s. How should you react to unsolicited advice? That’s what one theAsianparent Community user had to ask.

unsolicited advice

1. Stay cool

First of all, don’t get upset. Though unsolicited advice is often annoying, most people who give it mean well.

“My trick is to smile it off,” writes Yuna L. “No point getting upset over such things—if it’s useful information, I’d remember the advice. But if’s just annoying or critical, I’ll just smile at first and shake it off afterwards.”

Click to the next page to read more on dealing with unsolicited advice.

2. Listen

Instead of reacting negatively, patiently listen. Who knows? You might even learn something. “Get the good and forget the bad,” Eds A. responds. “Consider also what the motivation is in giving the advice. More often than not, it is really to help you deal with the problem at hand.”

“Sometimes it may be good advice even though it was ‘volunteered’ by the other well-intended individual,” writes Jacq N. “So it’s good to keep an open mind when it comes to such things but also remember not to let it bother you if it is not applicable (especially if the person is not fully aware of the situation).”

unsolicited advice

Photo: Dreamstime

3. Say thanks

Obviously, you’re not going to agree with everything. Sometimes, you’ll have to stand your ground, but do this politely. You’ll gain nothing by losing your temper. Explain your side calmly, thank them for their input, and if you need to, excuse yourself. Remember that at the end of the day, you are the parent, and unless you’re actually harming your child, how you choose to raise your child should be respected.

Partner Stories
Secrets Moms know to keep kids Growing Strong at home
Secrets Moms know to keep kids Growing Strong at home
Choosing the Right Milk, and other Parenting Hacks: Your Guide to Raising Strong Kids
Choosing the Right Milk, and other Parenting Hacks: Your Guide to Raising Strong Kids
Clearing The Air About Colds
Clearing The Air About Colds
Then and Now: How Motherhood has Changed Throughout the Years—and What Has Stayed the Same
Then and Now: How Motherhood has Changed Throughout the Years—and What Has Stayed the Same

READ: The Dalai Lama has unique advice for moms everywhere

Be sure to check out theAsianparent Community for more insightful stories, questions, and answers from parents and experts alike. If you have any insights, questions or comments regarding the topic, please share them in our Comment box below. Like us on Facebook and follow us on Google+ to stay up-to-date on the latest from theAsianparent.com Philippines!

Got a parenting concern? Read articles or ask away and get instant answers on our app. Download theAsianparent Community on iOS or Android now!

img
Written by

Cristina Morales

Become a Contributor

  • Home
  • /
  • Advice for Parenting Kids
  • /
  • "How should I deal with unsolicited parenting advice?"
Share:
  • Screen time for toddlers: 7 negative impacts of too much screen time on children

    Screen time for toddlers: 7 negative impacts of too much screen time on children

  • Sleep Training: The best tips to get your baby started on sleep training

    Sleep Training: The best tips to get your baby started on sleep training

  • STUDY: Your children can boost their cognitive development while watching TV with family

    STUDY: Your children can boost their cognitive development while watching TV with family

  • Screen time for toddlers: 7 negative impacts of too much screen time on children

    Screen time for toddlers: 7 negative impacts of too much screen time on children

  • Sleep Training: The best tips to get your baby started on sleep training

    Sleep Training: The best tips to get your baby started on sleep training

  • STUDY: Your children can boost their cognitive development while watching TV with family

    STUDY: Your children can boost their cognitive development while watching TV with family

Get advice on your pregnancy and growing baby. Sign up for our newsletter
  • Pregnancy
    • Baby
    • Breastfeeding & Formula
    • Baby Names
    • Delivery
  • Parenting
    • Parent's Guide
    • Advice for Parenting Kids
    • Relationship & Sex
  • Lifestyle Section
    • Local celebs
    • Celebrities
    • Money
    • News
  • FAMILY & HOME
    • Couples
    • Weekend & Holiday Guide
    • Health
  • Building a BakuNation
    • More
      • TAP Community
      • Advertise With Us
      • Contact Us
      • Become a Contributor


    • Singapore flag Singapore
    • Thailand flag Thailand
    • Indonesia flag Indonesia
    • Philippines flag Philippines
    • Malaysia flag Malaysia
    • Sri-Lanka flag Sri Lanka
    • India flag India
    • Vietnam flag Vietnam
    • Australia flag Australia
    • Japan flag Japan
    • Nigeria flag Nigeria
    • Kenya flag Kenya
    © Copyright theAsianparent 2023. All rights reserved
    About Us|Team|Privacy Policy|Terms of Use |Sitemap HTML
    • Tools
    • Articles
    • Feed
    • Poll

    We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it

    We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it