Postpartum sexual problems with married couples
Postpartum sexual problems may arise after the delivery of the baby. It is not uncommon and can be heightened if the sufferer is battling postpartum depression as well. Feeling down just reading this are you? Most new mothers usually go ahead with intercourse after the customary ‘6-week’ visit to the doctor but some of these mothers have complained of the pain they suffer doing something that should be enjoyable with their partner. A closed cervix and healed sutures need not necessarily mean that you are ready for intercourse.
Why
Why postpartum sexual problems and why you? Indeed, why? There are a number of reasons why this may occur. Firstly, it can be the cause of postpartum depression. Feeling down and out is certainly not going to create any romantic mood! If you’re having sexual problems because you’re suffering from postpartum depression, then it is advisable to seek medical advice rather than to sit around and have this problem escalate further. After all, it’s not just you who is affected but poor hubby as well (even though at this point you probably are blaming him for the weight gain, the depression and the irritable feeling you’re trapped with!).
Vaginal dryness could be another reason. If it’s like the Sahara Desert down there, then don’t worry because it’s common among postpartum women. A lack of vaginal lubrication can make intercourse painful. Women who suffer from vaginal dryness often dread intercourse and avoid sex as a result. Cue: Drop in libido. Why the dryness? This is due to reduced estrogen after the delivery of the placenta. Prolactin and oxytocin can also interfere with lubrication if you are nursing. It is normal for vaginal dryness to last up to six months.
Oh no! How?
To ease the dryness in the vagina, increase your intake of water and fruits. You’ll be amazed at fast hydration can cure things!
Abstain – If it hurts, do you really want to go through with it? Refrain from it for a couple more weeks or until your next visit to the doctor. Experiment new things with your partner instead. Remember the good old days of making out? You don’t have to have intercourse to please each other. Put on your creative cap and be adventurous to do something else that you can perhaps work into your pleasure routine with intercourse in the future.
You are physically ready. But you’re still having postpartum sexually problems. Are you emotionally ready? After all, you and the husband have just had a child. That’s a big step and can be overwhelming. Take some time to soak in the delightful aura that surrounds and enjoy the feeling of being a new mom (even if it’s the second or third time round!).
Remember: If your postpartum sexual problems continue and it has already been a good amount of time, don’t be shy to see your doctor about it!
