Most of us have seen celebrities or friends on our Facebook feeds do it. They get carried away by emotion and suddenly bare all of their deeply personal marital issues online. While some share their stories to inspire those going through similar situations, or to seek help, others may be motivated by more vindictive reasons.
Most recently, a netizen named Krizty Cheng shared a scandalous series of posts, alleging that a flight attendant of a top airline had proudly been carrying on an affair with her husband, to whom she has been married for four years. She names the woman, posts several photos of her, and emphasizes that the reason behind her revealing such details was to “warn” other women to beware of the said woman.
“This is the face of a homewrecker,” she begins in the post, detailing how she had “caught the woman flirting with her husband” through text. She went on to text the woman, who apparently didn’t deny it, and even claimed she contributed to the end of her marriage.
Though it has not been proven that her unnamed husband did indeed have an affair, it’s natural to assume that the woman’s reputation may forever be marred by one Facebook post.
Is publicly shaming mistresses justifiable?
In China, many mistresses are humiliated by stripping them nude and beating them up in public. While physical assault and oral defamation are different, they can also inflict similar lasting damage, especially if the woman accused of being a homewrecker isn’t guilty. This is not to say that mistresses should be tolerated, but husbands should be held just as accountable if infidelity did indeed take place.
Being the bigger person despite heartbreak can be a challenge, especially with the power of social media at our fingertips, but it should be used wisely, if only for our own protection. Online libel has become the top violation of the Philippine Cybercrime Law.
All Women’s Talk suggests some classy ways to deal with someone flirting with your partner. First, to think before you click and then talk it through with your partner. Next, you can give him a chance to explain and work from there, but above all prioritize your self and your well-being. Only you can decide whether to forgive or move on. Many women would agree that taking the high road is the best route to moving on and leaving all the pain behind.
READ: An open letter to my husband’s mistress: “You broke our marriage, but you didn’t break me”
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